On controlling fate

I have found that you can learn so much just by observing other people. One of the things that I see the most, that affects me the most, is laziness and complacency. I can't tell you how many people I know that just sit back and let things happen to them. The way I learn from this, is to act, to do, to take as much control as I can to achieve/accomplish/attain whatever it is I want.

Now this is detrimental because I have come to learn that there have been many instances in which I have forced things to happen- things that should just be left alone. I would convince myself that I had control over certain situations (which I didn't) and then create these expectations, which later proved to be unrealistic. I would then become disappointed and let down and this would happen over and over.

Finding the balance between these two things (what we have control over and what we should leave to chance) is a very difficult thing to do. I think we can all agree that we want some control of our lives, but at the same time we want to have faith and believe in fate or destiny. A few people have told me (and this may seem obvious to many) that we may not always have control over what happens to us, but we always have control over how we react to it. I believe this wholeheartedly and think there is something to be said about this.

I am still learning not to worry about things that are out of my hands- and rationally, I know what I can and can't control. I try to let things happen the way they were meant to and go with the flow. Forcing things never works out, but I can tell you more about that later.