Sometimes we unfortunately find ourselves in situations where it's hard to be friends with someone. Being friends with them has become so complicated, and causes us so much unnecessary frustration, stress, and headache. We start to wonder if being friends with them is worth it anymore. Are we getting anything out of this friendship? Do the costs of the relationship outweigh the benefits?
In life, it's really important to keep good company. The sad truth is that not everyone we meet is in fact good company. Also, people change, sometimes for the worse. We need to free ourselves from these bad relationships because they're anchors weighing us down, keeping us from moving forward with our lives. I know it sounds kinda dramatic, but we gotta cut these people loose. It's for our own good.
This relatively straight-forward idea of cutting ties with all the negative influences in our lives is made complicated by the emotional connection we might have with them. For example, if we've known a person for years- grew up with them- it's extremely difficult to simply give up and walk away. We can't just bail on our friends, right? I agree, but we need to make sure they're really our friends. A real friend doesn't put us in bad or awkward positions. They don't take advantage of the relationship without giving anything back. We don't need any of that.
I hope it's obvious that I don't mean we should walk away from a friend in need because it's always important to be there for our friends. However, if we have friends that are constantly in need, constantly asking us for "big favors", constantly getting into trouble- is that a good relationship?
There are too many people in this world to get held back by those who don't really care about us.
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